Other People Are a Mirror of Ourselves

The following is a response to one of my clients about a situation in which a colleague hurt her feelings. She had asked him for some advice and he ended up helping her to feel really badly about herself. She reached out to me as she was still reeling from these feelings. This was my response.

Hi Susan,
Thanks for reaching out. Remember that other people are sometimes a mirror of ourselves. If someone takes a strike at us from what seems like from out of nowhere, it is usually because something inside of us is feeling unworthy, unloved, and deserving to be beaten up a little. We feel small, insecure, or unhappy on some level and we draw others to affirm that we are indeed small and unworthy.

I experienced a similar situation recently. It took me several days to get over it and I was so upset. Later, I realized that I was really asking for it (on a law of attraction level) because of the ways I was not in harmony with my life.

I was missing my old life, community, and friends. I was hung up on the past and not ready to get out there and make more effort in the present. I was being comparative, critical, and closed.

And now I am grateful for what happened as it propelled me to do better. It propelled me to get into harmony with my life.

Pain can be a great motivator for change.

And just like in your case, this kind of interaction helps you to assess your progress. Look, I'm fabulous Susan and I'm doing great with a, b, c, and d! I still need to work on e and f. For example, perhaps you should not ask someone for their advice randomly when you're feeling a bit low and unsure? If you do go seeking someone, make sure it's a person who really has your back like a trusted friend.

And you can always do a session with me, for example. Anytime.

Meditation practice SAVES us! Meditation quiets the mind and it so soothed me when I was feeling troubled. I highly recommend it. When I'm feeling low, it is the best tonic. When I'm happy, it propels me into deeper sweetness. Meditation can be the most powerful tool in a spiritual person's toolbox.

I feel sure this whole episode will have a positive impact on you...just let it unfold. Sometimes when we grow, we have to endure the discomfort of shedding our old skin.

On another note, the registration page for the Yogic Diet retreat in Bali is now up!!! And the dates are April 9-14, 2012. www.yogicdiet.com (This is for my other readers too! If you are reading this, consider yourself specifically invited to the retreat. Welcome!)

I so hope you can make it! Let me know what questions you have and if it looks like this is still a possibility for you.

So much love to you!
Monique